Calling In Support

I may be headstrong (some say stubborn but I prefer to reframe in the positive) and viciously independent at times but I'm getting better at recognising how important it is to call in support when you need it. I don't think it really matters whether it is family or friends or an online connection in a land far,far away that you summon. Does it matter? I don't think so...

I guess it depends what kind of support you need. That'd be the second hurdle (the first being knowing you require support) - figuring out what form your support is required. Is it physically being there to ferry kids hither and tither that is so often part and parcel of this time of year? Is it being on the other end of a phone line or keyboard to make the appropriate comments at the appropriate time (A-hah,yeah,sure,absolutely, dump him!) Is it to monetarily contribute to a friend's Pozible space camp fund? Is it to pose those questions you don't ask of yourself?

I have a good friend who does this. It can, at times, make people uncomfortable in their very seat. I have wondered if there is a degree of Asperger's there - being unable to read people's reactions, emotions and facial expressions. Still, it works for me. It pulls me out of mainstream expectations and actively seek what's right for me.

I often only need someone to listen if I have a demanding day, though I won't knock back a foot rub and a glass of wine handed to me. My point is that I am getting so much better at asking for help. Not sure if it's an age thing, but I currently have little reservation in seeking what help I need and fortuitously now there are people in my life that are coming to the party. 

So, if I ask help, I want you to know that it was a journey getting here and I really appreciate it if you're able to contribute. If you're not, I'm completely okay with that too. I have a view of the world that people do what they can when they can and that's okay.